Revelation 19:11 And I saw heaven opened, and behold a white horse; and he that sat upon him [was] called Faithful and True, and in righteousness he doth judge and make war. 19:12 His eyes [were] a…
Greetings to all, we are glad you are here and hope this finds you well, and in good spirit. I would like to expound on our guest writer’s article: “The Difference Between Advice and Encouragement”, in a way that you can begin to see it in action, from a daily relationship, and how we all either create an upside-down world, or a right-side-up world, based on the outcome of our daily decisions, thoughts, actions (the big and little ones) and what effect they have on our lives, and all those around us.
Many years back I began to imagine being married to a man who was a good man, who would be the leader in the family and take good care of me and his family; something I had not been able to experience in this life at that time, but now realize, I was not a spiritually feminine lady, at that time, and that was why. I dreamed of having a relationship where harmony worked to create a much more peaceful and productive environment, than I was living in at the time. I began by loving myself first, and, as the dream unfolded, I starting to face the obstacles of my past actions and decisions of allowing myself to be used, abused, becoming co-dependent, independent, bossy, etcetera, that had been preventing me from realizing my dream. By first taking an honest look at myself, and what position in the game of life I had chosen, which helped to created the chaos and disharmony in the first place, I faced my fears of not being loved. Knowing this was no way to live, I made a tough decision. Relying on this new knowing I set healthier boundaries, changed body-language and welcomed the change, accepting that this was right and that the dream would be fulfilled. Up until this point in my life all that me, myself, and I, had accomplished was hurting myself, others, and creating an “upside-down world.”
We have all heard the old saying, “love makes the world go ’round” (not sex), contrary to what we all have been taught by today’s upside-down society; sex and Love are not one in the same. Sex without love makes you feel worthless, used and abused. Love points us to The Ruler of The Universe, because He is LOVE. Acknowledging that He created and successfully runs the entire Universe, we should be able to trust Him to teach us how to become good and love one another. Women, if you offer a Real Man sex before marriage he will see this as a big turn off, instead of turn on, and will view you as promiscuous and untrustworthy. If you dress for sex, exposing a lot of skin, tight jeans and low neck tops, etcetera, then your body-language will most likely attract a man who has one thing on his mind, and it is not in either of your best interests. On the other hand, when you become spiritually feminine you will dress demure and feminine, learning how to attract the love of a real man, and enjoy the essence of True love, which you will deserve and enjoy. The wealth of becoming spiritually feminine is obtainable for all women. It is priceless, and I encourage each of you to seek after this special gift, if you don’t already possess it, and are actively practicing it every day. For the most part, our world turns right-side-up, by me being humble and teachable, always asking for my husband’s guidance, because ultimately he Rules over me and has the final decisions on everything. I have learned that my husband is still learning how to be spiritually mature, and makes mistakes too; this is a learning process for both of us. When this happens it is my responsibility to support him in his growth, and encourage him to correct his wrongs according to God’s Commandments, which will reflect his behavior back to him, making this conflict between him and God alone. By doing what is right, we ensure that God will be on our side, providing and protecting us through our husbands, as promised. By acting non-manipulative and submissive you will take yourself out of the conflict, helping him more than if you argue about who is right or wrong, or try to convince a man with Satan’s advice, like Eve did to Adam, which only leads to discord in the relationship. Hopefully, you are now beginning to “see” that by acting spiritually feminine, you have a far greater effect on the relationship. If we want to live a joyful, healthy life, it is important to put God first and foremost in all aspects of our lives, by following His perfect Laws. By doing so, you fall under His promised blessings, where He will never let you down and you will never feel alone. You will always receive His unconditional LOVE, when and IF you are ready to receive it. As we ALL have been told, “Father knows best”, so it seems that The 10+2 Command-ments are a perfect guide, that everyone should follow when making decisions, and taking action, on a daily basis. The word Command-ments means commanded to obey, and they were given to us with our best interest in mind.
A mutual friend, who introduced my husband and I, had been trying for a while to get me to agree to meet him, so she shared many things about him, like his talents and pictures of him, but the one thing that really sparked my interest, because I was not interested in his looks and another bad relationship, was the fact he did not work on the Sabbaths (Saturday) for money. She said he would help people out on that day, if need be, but never charge for it. This made my decision to allow her to give him my number. He later shared with me, that prior to us meeting, while on vacation, he had cried out to God at the top of the mountain, accepting the fact that God had not placed the right woman in his life, accepting instead the solitary life he had been living with God, which he had done for over seven years. When he returned he saw her message, and he waited a while, to be sure he was supposed to call me. After nearly a week, he called me, and that’s when I asked him about his relationship with Christ. Based on his answer, I had some trust in him, before actually meeting in person, publicly, and was now looking for his actions to line up with his words. He invited me to meet him for dinner one Sunday evening. Before ordering I mentioned I might have a beer, which I didn’t, because the thought of finding a man who truly wanted to serve God was important to me, and I did not want to run him off. He kindly replied with compassion in his voice, “Is that what you think you need to be doing with your life?” Although I had drunk alcohol almost every day, up until I met him, that evening was when I stopped drinking. I have never had another drink since, and now I see how I was testing him, to see if he was for real, and he sure was. He suggested we study together on The Sabbaths, which I enjoyed, because he read God’s Holy Word to me, and that is when my desires for alcohol, materialism, sex, vanity, money, power, etcetera began to diminish, and for the first time I felt satisfied inside. The truth is alcohol dissolves our inhibitions to abstain from sinful behaviors. Prior to meeting him, I did not want to drink, but had not been able to stop, even though I had attended church and 12 step meetings.
As the relationship grew, I could see his words lined up with his actions, as he stood firm in his beliefs. He exercised his manhood establishing healthy boundaries for our relationship. One of the greatest demonstration of his love and respect for our Creator, himself and me was when he informed me of his wishes for us to stay out of bed, insisting on saying our marriage vows to God and each other first, and then consummating our marriage on the honeymoon, thereby obeying the First Commandment to Love God first. I agreed, knowing this would take great self-control on both our parts, and we both faithfully kept our word to God and each other. As a result, he surprised me with a white rose, dipped in gold, on our honeymoon night, as a gift/symbol celebrating our purity together. Another way he did not over-step his boundaries with me, was when he knelt down to ask if he could kiss me for the first time, which touched my heart deeply and proved he was a gentleman. I liked this way of creating our world/thinking and felt the true love, that his actions were proving between us. With his masculine love and good examples, I now had hope, a sense of security, which made me feel loved and cherished, as our love grew stronger. Have you ever heard this saying? “YOU are your own worst enemy.” That is the Truth, and until we face these facts our egos will defeat us every time, keeping us from attracting and falling in love with a real man.
Learn to take action, change behaviours and set boundaries, so this kind of man will seek you out, and then you will be able to learn that your greatest power lies in your willingness to be guided by a real man. I faced-down my ego and learned to look to him for everything, especially strength and courage to continue to follow him, and this new way of learning to love each other, that he was teaching me.
When we first started dating, he had been working on a single woman’s residential home for quite a while, and he told me he needed to get finished with it, and move on to others. So he asked me to help him with the work one day, which set the foundation for him to train me to be his help-meet. It was during this time that he would repeat a saying that I did not fully understand, but was willing to learn. He kept repeating it, sometimes on a daily basis, “familiarity breeds contempt”. At the time I was learning how to recognize my feelings and behaviors more, with a sober mind now, a gut feeling if you will, a knowing, and trusting in this guidance. The more he would say this quote, the more I understood and put it into action, being careful to keep our healthy boundaries each day, striving to always be courteous, greeting each other with a kiss and a hug, being polite, putting the needs of others first, before my self, and learning when conflict came, to still do the same.
Through these acts of selflessness the love continued to grow, and I began to understand how to let him lovingly guide me, as our hours turned into days. The time flew by and my world started turning right-side-up. At the time we met, I had also been attending organized religion for years, but when I ask my new best friend to go with me, he said he could not do that, knowing the truth about those organizations, stating, instead, that Christ’s sacrifice on the cross had abolished the priesthood, for all
Is it true Real Man desire a beautiful women? What is a beautiful women by modern standards,(head of the relationship, bossy, independent, displays lasciviousness) and is that really what men want? Truth is a real man desires a woman who can make his world beautiful, and that ONLY happens when she becomes a spiritually feminine lady who allows her husband/real man to be the leader of their relationship. Today people ask me, ” How do you describe a Real Man?” Below you will find a description of my real man. The next question they ask is, ” How does a man become a real man?” Only God knows the answers to that question because it is only through a divine relationship with Him that He creates a Real Man.
When I first met my knight in shinning armor I could tell he was not “one of the good old boys. “ he carried the sword of Truth with him at all times which he used most days. I quickly found out he had principles, displayed honor and respect for others ,for the most part, and their possessions, which he still posses today. He never lies, he means what he says and says what he means never going back on his word even when it becomes difficult to keep he still follows through. My knight does not claim to be physically strong or intelligent, he just goes out 6 days a week wearing his shield and taking his sword to fight the dragon’s in high places on this hellish planet called earth. He is not puffed up with big muscles nor arrogantly focusing on what he looks like physically. My knight today is the protector and soul provider for me and his family, and he takes good care of all our needs and the animals he has been entrusted with. He will defend us in self defense when necessary. He is not a bully, using his fist, but deals with problems in a calm and logical manner. His continual examples of love and compassion for others attracted me to him. Because of these characteristics I felt I could trust him with my life. In fact one day early on in our marriage we were working for another carpenter friend of his and the man turned to me in the conversation of marriage and said” you have trusted him with your life.” I agreed and today I am so glad I listened to that lovely sweet soft voice in side me wooing me to come this way, for the way of true love and harmony that I was seeking, I have found through this relationship.
My knight guides me gently back to my creator who has the power to change me as well as all of us here because He created each one of us and knows just what we need and when we need it.. He is always drawing me closer to him by kindly encouraging me to do what is right for me and everyone else involved. This kind of Love makes it easier for me to do what he asks, rather than a man who is harsh and demanding who has to be right all the time, but doesn’t practice what he preaches. My knight kindly suggested I let him supply all my needs therefore encouraging me to stop practicing/selling vanity as my business. Vanity, I believe, is partly responsible for the mess the world is in today. He often reminds me that “the whole world is upside down, worshiping satan through the woman.” This helped turn my world right side up finding the way to my rightful position worshiping God through the man. Now I practice being his help-meet, just as my Creator intended. I find that in following this path my Creator guided me to fall in love with my real man, his sword, shield and The Truth that he follows.
Don’t get me wrong, he’s is also physically nice to look at and talented, but the whole package is what I desire. Early on he gained my respect due to the fact he did not play into the hands of his women clients who flirted with him. He was always kind and sometimes found it necessary to direct the conversation elsewhere in those situations which helped give me faith in his relationship capabilities. This kind of Love helped to break through the walls of hurt and distrust I had developed from previous dysfunctional relationships. Like these he has many skills most men only dream of acquiring which makes him very attractive to most women these days because they selfishly want a man for what he can give them, not for the man’s values. He could have had most any woman , but because of his beliefs and faith in God he choose a woman who could make his world spiritually beautiful not one who is just beautiful to look at. It is a dream come true to have this courageous sword swinging man as my husband. He has had many a woman tempt him before and also since our marriage, but he is always true to us and has never committed adultery or fornication since we signed our Holy Marriage Contract with God. He also shared that the eight years prior to our relationship he remained celibate which further strengthened my trust in him and helped me to start over coming my destructive jealousy.He helps me achieve things like this site to connect with others.Most of the time it feels like I am in a fairy tale and the dream has come true to life.
Today it is apparent that my knight knew what he wanted and picked me for my beliefs which he hoped would make his world more beautiful. I’ve always wanted a man to love me for who I really was and not for my looks but I did not know how to attract that kind of man. Thank goodness all that has changed today and I am loved by my knight in shinning armor because of his beliefs in building a better world. It has been said opposites attract, he being masculine in nature likes for me to be his feminine polar opposite. For example, long soft flowing hair as my covering, being sensitive and caring, always nurturing, and a good care giver of his physical needs.
From the first time he came to my home he guided our romance with “strong steel boundaries – no sex before marriage” . We believe that sex is spiritually uniting within the bounds of the marriage contract, becoming one flesh, and if sex happens before God is invited in through the taking of vows, the man ends up following satan through the woman making their whole world operate upside down. Because he used his sword and shield he extinguished the red dragon’s fiery darts of lust and sin that would have destroyed our loving relationship causing our relationship to be based on lust. I used to think that more sex was the way to a man’s heart, however I have learned the way to a real man’s heart is through giving him Real Love. Clearly he does not desire lust/sex and it is a big turn OFF to him. Actually he desires right the opposite which is Real Love. I have found this kind of Love is much more fulfilling than sex. He desires to make an “Out of This World” experience when our two bodies and souls join unselfishly, always putting the others needs first, wanting only to please and asking nothing in return. Our act of making love becomes the nearest thing to “Heaven on Earth” I have ever experienced. It has been said love making could be this way and now I can honestly tell you it can be.
We grow a garden which helps us grow together. We love the fresh vegetables because they just taste better and we know they are much healthier for us. The time we spend together in the garden has proved to be a rewarding experience. We see nature transpiring, and becoming full of life. The garden reminds us of our relationship, as it grows it shows signs of magnificent beauty and magical wonders producing sweet sensations to enjoy and nourish us as well as others. While sharing our day over a hot home cooked meal I jump at the chance to tell him everything that happened to me that day, listening for guidance in his humble words of direction.Keeping our home and clothes clean and mended making sure there is a warm inviting atmosphere when he returns home are ways I show my gratitude. He shows appreciation for the labor of love by verbally thanking me for cooking and cleaning and helping him with the chores of our animals around the ranch. After all he has been fighting the fire breathing dragon all day and he just wants to come home where he is loved, appreciated, and respected. I try to show him I appreciate him by verbally thanking him for all his hard work each day and putting healthy food on our table.
By no means is he perfect, he still has his ego/self to overcome daily as we all do. Neither are we claiming to know anything about relationships, we still have occasional discord when either of us becomes overcome with ones selfishness. Yet the episodes are less frequent as love abounds. It is our hope that each couple will find their harmony with the guidance of their Creator as we have. If we have shared anything here of any use or value, we give credit to our Father in Heaven, for He is the Only One Good and is Love; which makes the world go round.
A real man is one who follows morality and aspires to these characteristics, puts other peoples needs before his own, he is his families protector/provider, never lies, does not commit fornication or adultery, respects others and their property. and follows Truth, always striving to point others to that path. When he fails he gets back up and rights his shield and takes the sword of Truth in hand once again to battle the red dragon’s tail of lies using God’s Royal Laws of Liberty and determination. My role is cheering him on saying, “Honey, Go, Fight, Win this race called Life” encouraging him on his path towards becoming spiritually masculine. Perhaps you’ve heard it said ,”behind every good man there is a relatively good woman”, my place is to take good care of him, and encourage him to fight evil in the world. By doing so I am learning how to become a perfect lady, wife and mom which is Women’s True Liberation having found my path towards home Falling in Love with a Real Man. By following this path my Creator has designed for me I can earn the right to become a man the correct way, not the way the world teaches by becoming a man while still in a womans body (bread winner,competitive, bossy, independent, etc.) before having earned it. My hope is you will come and join me here and discover your divine purpose, as God intended it to be.